Circle of Trust

Last time you all heard me speak I talked about going through some issues, seeking help, and trying to overcome some demons in my life.  I also started reading “Cant Hurt Me” by David Goggins.  This is the third time I have read this book.  The first two times was mostly reading the story, being in awe, and trying some of the things he suggest, but not fully committing.  this time I am taking every challenge seriously.  I am up to the 4th Challenge, but so far Challenge 2 is my favorite, so I will read that to you……..

Its time to come eyeball to eyeball with yourself, and get raw and real.  This is not a self-love tactic.  You cant fluff it.  Dont massage your ego.  This is about abolishing the ego and taking the first step toward becoming the real you!

I tacked post-it nots on my Accountability Mirror, and Ill ask you to do the same.  Digital devices wont work.  Write all your insecurities, dreams and goals on Post-Its and tag up your mirror.  If you need more education, remind yourself that you need to start working your ass off because you arent smart enough!  Period, point blank.  If you look in the mirror and see someone who is obviously overweight, that means youre fucking fat!  Own it!  Its okay to be unkind with yourself in these moments because we need thicker skin to improve in life.

Whether its a career goal (quit my job, start a business), a lifestyle goal (lose weight, get more active), or an athletic one (run my first 5K, 10K, or marathon), you need to be truthful with yourself about where you are and the necessary steps it will take to achieve those goals, day by day.  Each step, each necessary point or self-improvement, should be written as its own note.  That means you have to do some research and break it all down.  For example, if you are trying to lose forty pounds, your first Post-It may be to lose two pounds in the first week.  Once that goal is achieved, remove the note and post the next goal of two to five pounds until your ultimate goal is realized.

Whatever your goal, youll need to hold yourself accountable for the small steps it will take to get there.  Self-improvement takes dedication and self-discipline.  The dirty mirror you see every day is going to reveal the truth.  Stop ignoring it.  Use it to your advantage.

–David Goggins

My mirror right now has enough room for me to see myself to brush my teeth and shave, otherwise its full of post it notes, goal, my short falls, whatever….. My wife hates it but sees how it is effecting me so she deals with it.  Let me tell you guys, to see that shit day in and day out it makes me want to fucking do the things I put up therre, and when I dont….Man that note stares at you like its about to explode.  I encourage all of you to read this book, it has helped me tremendously