Circle of Trust

COT

Accountability (from Q2, Love Right, Q Source)

(Talking about how every man has blind spots, which are different then moral weaknesses – we are aware of moral weaknesses and can handle them alone, but blind spots are outside of our control. We need accountability to deal with them properly)

“This distinction between a moral weakness and a Blind Spot is reflected in the first step of AA: we admitted we were powerless over alcohol–that our lives had become unmanageable. This step is first because an alcoholic cannot begin to recover until he accepts that fact that for him the abuse of alcohol is not a moral weakness but a Blind Spot. For other people, non-alcoholics, it might be different but that is irrelevant to the alcoholic’s recovery.

The Survivor (the man who has fallen off the boat and is hanging on, using all his effort to save himself) is ruled by his Blind Spots. Like an insatiable parasite they slowly suck the life out of him. The Sad Clown (a man who decelerates in one or more F’s) softly submits to his Blind Spots, seeking to uncomfortably coexist with them long enough to die without ever having to asking for help eradicating them. His is a life of solitary denial and Hopelessness.

The HIM (high impact male) is different. Because he is a Servant (the other end of the Sur-Ser Continuum) who lives for his Mission, he treats his Blind Spots like any other Obstacle in his life–as a Problem that impedes Movement. Because a Problem can and must be remedied, the HIM does so by seeking Accountability. For a Blind Spot, that is the only thing that works. Although this requires him to admit his Problem to others, the HIM presses forward because his pride and sense of self are less important than the people he Serves.”