Circle of Trust

For my COT, I wanted to start with this quote,

“Helping others, encouraging others, are often acts of being kind that have more meaning that you may realize.”

Lately I had been struggling with trying to figure out with the concept of what is the big meaning of my purpose.  What is my mission of my life?

Through some good conversations and reflection, I have realized that it doesn’t have to be a huge earth shattering thing that gives your life purpose.  I finally realized that what makes me feel good is when I can help others.  I have gone through some shit with the two very bad marriages, the emotional abuse, lack of confidence, severe anxiety and depression, my Dad passing away during the second divorce, etc.    I share my experiences and feelings during my COTs so I can get it off my chest but also to hopefully help someone else who may be going through similar shit realize that you are not alone and maybe help them to not make the same mistakes I did.  The simple act of empathizing with the crap someone is going through can make a big difference in their life.

As men, society has engrained in us to don’t cry, suck it up, don’t talk about your feelings and other things.  I tell you that is bullshit.  The healing and almost freedom that I have found by talking about how I am feeling good or bad over the past two years has helped me heal decades of pain and grow into the best man that I’ve ever been.  My sharing of my feelings during my lowest point of my life last year when I was a week into the divorce and Dad died saved my life.  I can remember that afternoon when I almost ended my life and how hard it was for me to share my feelings of hopelessness and sadness with the group during my COT shortly after.  The old me would have felt ashamed of showing my weakness and vulnerability to the group but I tell you, those are the moments that lead to greater healing and growth than you can imagine.

So, that is my purpose.  Helping others to get through and possibly lessen the pain that I have lived through in my hell.  That is what has given my life a new meaning.

I challenge you to try and encourage someone today.  It can be at home or work or wherever but just try to help with some encouraging words or empathize with them.  Let them know that they are not alone.  Hell, just a text or call can make so much of a difference and possibly save their life.

Aye?

F3 is not a religious organization but we will end in a prayer.  You’re welcome to join or take a minute to connect with your sky Q.  Are there an intentions we can acknowledge?