Circle of Trust

“Love is like a Fart, the harder you force it, eventually you shit yourself”

I ran into this dumb ass line on the internet, chuckled, and then sadly realized I relate too much to it with the current state of things. F3 has helped me with multiple different aspects in my life over the year, and most recently I was introduced to a book “The mans guide to Women”, as well as a kick ass shield lock. One things certain; Lots of men are messed up, and by messed up I mean we are just Men who make similar mistakes.

I wish I could use my knowledge that I’ve gained over time and apply it in a better way with a time machine.

Be more mindful, attentive, empathetic , and be less defensive when something was directed towards me. Maybe I’d avoid the place I’m at today. I’m not yet ready to give up (had/have my moments), but the challenges are real, and so are the consequences of giving up, and the reward to getting better is probably 10 fold, but I won’t know until hindsight. So until that moment in the future, I will recalibrate and try again. I’m glad I have a group of men I can lean on, reach out to, as well as relate to how ironically similar and dumb us men are in many ways, in particular towards our M’s and relationships. Not to say the women are free and clear of any wrong doing, just saying we are not alone, and there’s many fighting this fight.

So back to back to square one, as the progress I made quickly dissolved. It’s almost relatable to markets as in ; you take the stairs up with your investments, and elevator down when shit hits the fan.

Back to Attuning (Foghorn, if by chance you read this, I ruined this word, all I ever think about is that stupid meme i put out of Robert Diniro grabbing his nuts “ATTUNE THIS”

For those who don’t know: ATTUNE

A = AWARENESS- Being aware of your partners emotions and noticing when she is feeling distressed or needing connection.

T – TURNING TOWARD: Physically and emotionally responding to her “bids” for attention or connection, rather than turning away or staying distracted.

T – TOERANCE: Accepting that your partner nay have a different perspective or emotional reaction than you, and not judging her for it.

U- UNDERSTANDING: Striving to understand her feelings by asking open – ended questions, such as “what are you worried about?” rather than trying to fix the problem immediately.

N-NON- DEFENSIVE LISTENING : Hearing her out without becoming defensive, even when her complaint is directed at you.

E – EMPATHY – Validating her feelings and showing that you “get it” by saying things like, “I can see why you’d feel that way”

Onwards